Long Hair, Who Cares?!

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Recently, I was on vacation and for the latter half of my stay I put my hair in large havana twists. It looked so natural that people–black people, surprisingly, could not tell that it wasn’t my hair. I was stopped many times and asked if this was my real hair, or how long did it take to grow? I was complimented and admired with, your hair is so beautiful, I love your hair. I had never gotten so many compliments on a hairstyle before. Moreover, every single person, with the exception of one, were men! Can you believe that??! Black men, asking me, a black woman, if this is my real hair! I didn’t know how to feel about this.. Happy? Amused? Offended?

After a while, I studied the situation and actually felt some kinda way, which I cannot describe in one word. I was not angry at the men who asked if this was my real hair per se, but I became conscious of the ideation of long hair seeming to be more admirable than short hair. It was as if being natural was no longer the problem of being excluded in worldly beauty, but now having shorter, natural, is what is specifically overlooked.

I began to feel as though we, as black people, did not entire break the chains of mental slavery. And I am not saying it is our fault. I believe that we had a breakthrough but it needs to go a step further. Yes, we’ve come far with the return of natural tresses, but many of us are still seeking length for beauty. We need to evaluate our reasons for desiring long hair. Some of us may feel inadequate or substandard having not attained long hair length goals. We protective style to cover up our “ugly phase” aka short hair and take hair pills to promote growth for long lengths. Now, if you are doing certain things for hair health, carry on, I support that!

However, from studying the encounters from my trip, I’ve concluded that there is still this ideation in society, that long hair is more attractive. This social construction of beauty was lurking in my subconscious for a long time and I hadn’t realized it until I was probed by these men. It had been whispering to me ever since I became natural, and long hair was my desire. Once I did the big chop, all I wanted was length, and then health was close for a second focus. Basically, I made length more important than health which really didn’t work out because heathy hair is actually what causes length (reduced breakage, etc). Point is, I desired long hair, all my life. But don’t get my wrong, I felt beautiful with my short natural hair as well. The problem was I saw it as a phase and I wasn’t content with staying in that phase. It was meant to be a passing and not a permanancy.

Today, I still struggle with my hair at its short/medium length. I struggle with natural protective styling and finding the time to care for my hair. But now being fully aware of the feelings that lurked in my subconscious for a long time, I plan to be more conscientious and loving to my hair. I plan to work on my self-esteem and self-acceptance. Having confidence as a natural is one thing, but one should decipher whether that is true confidence or wall of delusion and denial around societal standards deeply ingrained in your reasons for your hair goals..

#foodforthought

x0x0,
Sarahdee

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Natural Hair Moment

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It’s Springtime and my hair has bloomed and come out to play! No more winter-wearing-warm-hat-wiging! Low manipulation and length retention was been a priority and goal for the past few months, now I must get into a routine of styling my own hair once again. Now, since I have attained a new, longer length, I have more styling versatility. I will have to get use to maintenance again since it has been a while, but nonetheless, I am excited and ready to have fun with my tresses!! =D

Carnival Sunday!

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Carnival in the Air!

Yesterday, I attended the annual Caribbean Carnival in my town. It was a beautiful and sunny day with a cold breeze at times. Overall, the carnival was cool; it had fewer attendees this year, probably due to the fact that it was football Sunday. However, it was drama-free for the most part and diverse with all types of people, old and young, and different cultures and ethnicities apart from the Caribbean Islanders. I had a great time!

I rocked my Havana twists in a neat high bun. The night before, I redid the twists at the front so that my hairstyle would appear fresh. I used Garnier Fructis Pure Clean Smoothing Cream to reduce the frizziness while retwisting. Then I used ORS edge control on my edges in the front and the back. I tied down the perimeter of my hair with a scarf and put a bonnet over my bun. In the morning, I took off the hair ties and my hairstyle looked freshly done.

I am currently at the start of week 3 wearing my medium Havana twists. I think this entire week, I will keep my hair bunned. See pictures below from my awesome fun-day-Sunday with my naturally awesome curly fashionista friend Kay Mae! I love her style by the way–she is a trendy, edgy, and unique fashionista. Hopefully, she will start a blog displaying her fashion style, tips soon! If and when she does, I’ll be sure to let y’all know! Oh, and if you’re wondering about the cute and flirty little yellow dress that I’m wearing, check it out on my Fashion Finds page for more details!

Tame that Mane!

After the take-down (braids)

After the take-down (braids)

Detangling can be the most difficult and painful part of your hair regimen. But with the use of a detangling agent, your detangling process would be reduced by half the time it usually takes. All you need is a great detangling product and your hair will be your best friend! It also helps prevent breakage from constant pulling and stress while detangling with a comb or brush. Lastly, some great detanglers serve as leave in conditioners to moisturize your hair.
Here is the method and what I use to tame my mane after taking out braided or twisted protective styles and prepare for a wash day:
Detangleing Method
Need
Wide tooth comb
Spray bottle
Detangling cream
Water
Coconut oil
Directions
Fill a spray bottle about 1/3 of its holding amount with water, detangling cream, and a little coconut oil
Shake until the cream is properly mixed with the water
Separate your hair in sections
Saturate each section with mixture and detangle starting from hair ends
Add coconut oil to each section and two strand twist (Optional-wash day pre-treatment)